It’s that time of year when everyone starts talking about goals and New Year’s resolutions.
I’ve talked a lot about goal setting here at She Reaches. It’s something that I feel strongly about and it comes naturally to me to plan ahead.
However, I know the reality is that less than 3% of Americans set goals so you may be very skeptical about why it even matters or if it’s worth doing if you aren’t a natural planner like I am.
So let me lay it out for you since I believe there are several reasons that it’s important for working moms.
1) The process of thinking through your goals often forces you to think about what matters to you.
When you’re barely keeping your head above water in life, you often don’t even think much about what you value in life.
It’s so easy to follow other people’s paths whether that be the activities your child is involved with, your career path, the house you live in, the car you drive, or even the food you eat.
Just because it’s easy does not mean that it will make you feel happy and fulfilled.
Pausing to reflect on what it is that is important can be the most impactful piece of setting goals.
If you do one thing related to goal setting, I’d encourage you to start thinking about what’s important in your life.
2) When you sit down and think of all the things you want to do and set goals, you have a timeframe on those “someday I will…” items in your life.
Know what I’m talking about?
“Someday I want to travel with my family.”
“Someday I will be in great physical shape.”
“Someday I want to write a book.”
It’s true what people say, life does seem to speed up the older you get. There is no magic time in the future to start these things.
A good time to start is now…with even just a tiny step.
Write a bucket list of travel destinations you want to go to with your family.
Start a word document for your book idea and write one sentence.
Take an extra walk around the block at lunch if you want to be in great physical shape.
The key is to think about what you could do to make sure that you actually do these things starting right now.
“Someday” usually ends up being never.
3) Working moms, really, ALL moms, tend to let taking care of themselves and their own interests slide after having kids.
Before I was a mom, I thought it was silly to think that I would forget about me. I had lots of goals and ambitions and surely that would not change.
Well, the joke’s on me. It did happen.
I love these little people in my life so dearly that I am willing to move heaven and earth to take care of them.
But, one of the things I eventually realized is that taking care of me and doing things that personally excite me outside of motherhood actually help me take the best care of them too.
You may even be confused about what you even like to do anymore after becoming a mom.
Setting some goals may get you going in feeling excited about something new – you may even want to share it with your kids!
4) The key to life is thriving not just surviving.
There will be stages in life where you really are just surviving.
You go through hard things or you have a baby that doesn’t sleep.
In those times, I’ve found I abandon goal setting. I cannot even think about working towards something besides getting through each day.
You may feel like that right now and feel like blowing off everything I’m saying about goal setting. That’s ok.
There will come a time where the fog lifts a little and you can put more intentional thought into your life.
Your entire life should not be about just surviving each day.
If it feels like you’re just surviving on an ongoing basis, you may need to take a good look at things and make some goals to change that – little by little!
Are you with me? Will you give goal setting a try? Leave a comment to let me know!