Getting older has me thinking about wrinkles and how we as a society think about them. Perhaps in my effort to always see the glass half full, I think we owe it to ourselves to think about wrinkles in a more positive way, similar to how we think about scars.
Both scars and wrinkles affect the skin. Yet when someone tells me they have a scar, I immediately think there is a story behind that scar and I want to know about it. It makes me curious. My imagination runs wild thinking how they got the scar – was it from a crazy adventure, a sport, a fight or a surgery? The story of my scar on my right hand just beneath my knuckle is from our first family dog Jenny, who accidentally bit me when I was just six years old and wasn’t quite sure how to tame a puppy. It makes me smile every time I see it as it reminds me of Jenny.
However, when I think about wrinkles, I feel sad and wish there was a way to get rid of them. When I’m talking with other people about wrinkles, we immediately dive into what products we use to reduce them, or how they plan to get botox when they are a bit older. The tone of the conversation is almost depressing, that wrinkles are things that no one should want to have or take pride in. They should instead want to eliminate them as soon as possible.
So, today I propose an alternative thought process. How about we think of wrinkles as the scars that show that we have lived! We have been through adventures and aged gracefully through it all, and our wrinkles are proof of that. Instead of thinking of them as something to hide, why not choose to embrace them? Embrace the fact that we look our age and say, damn right I have wrinkles! I’ve lived. I’ve loved. I’ve experienced life. Who is with me?!
This is the inspirational speech I give myself as I am looking into the mirror and noticing changes. I recently found a stack of photos from college and in some shots I think I look exactly the same and in others I think wow, my 18 year old self looks more awesome than my 32 year old self. As a woman, having confidence and pride in my appearance is important to me, but I don’t want to look at images from the past and wish that I looked younger and didn’t have the wrinkles I have now. I want to embrace my current look and feel like the wrinkles are the scars from my life, showing that I have lived.
As you can see from the photo though, I do have an interest in wrinkle reducing products and my interest in these products has only increased as I have gotten more wrinkles. I rely on my daily moisturizer and vitamin C serum, to protect my skin from sun exposure and add moisture back into my skin. I also like the Fresh Lotus Eye Gel as it is cooling and feels amazing on my face, though I am not sure if it is actually working. These products are part of my daily routine and make me feel good. But in using them, am I going against my belief that wrinkles are a good thing? Is it hypocritical to embrace my wrinkles and at the same time, try to reduce them? I’m not sure it is.
I see the actions I am taking as preventive care, ways to help my skin look and feel its best for years to come, and not something that signals I am against wrinkles or unwilling to embrace my age. These products are like vitamins for my skin. Because I can do both – I can love the skin I am in with its wrinkles and scars and at the same time try to protect it and keep it healthy. So that is what I choose. I will not apologize for my wrinkles. I will not apologize for my age. Because I have lived, and I am living. And for that, I am so grateful.
Anyone else have a different way to approach wrinkles, or favorite products they are loving lately? Would love to hear from you!