Are you feeling burnt out? Do you try to take on the world yourself?
I used to think I could control everything, plan ahead, and that I could keep everything going. Until I burnt myself out. I was trying to tackle some tough things at work, traveling like crazy (for business), trying to keep up my end of the blog and podcast, and juggle all of this with trying to keep our household running. I was overwhelmed and stressed. I even had a meltdown on a plane coming home from a business trip. Trying to hide tears from strangers on a cross country flight when I just wanted to cry and let it all out was pretty rough. I suppose I wouldn’t have realized how badly I needed to make some changes and ask for help if I hadn’t hit that wall.
So what do I mean by help? For me, I’ve made some definite strides in not taking the world on all by myself. I hope my examples help you to think about what you can do in your own life.
3 ways I reduced burnout
- I let my husband in on how I was feeling. I know, revolutionary! We sat down and went through everything that it took to run our house and take care of our family. We consciously split them up, keeping in mind when one person preferred a task over the other. For example, I don’t mind planning and scheduling things and my husband doesn’t mind the dishes. The tasks we both disliked we just split up after that. After almost 9 years of marriage, we probably were making too many assumptions about who does what and now we had a new plan. It’s so much better to tackle things as a team!
- I was more realistic about my time. Don’t get me wrong, I consider myself a master at time management. But, where I didn’t leave room was to relax or make space to just enjoy whatever was going on without worrying about what was planned or my to-do list. Now, I try to schedule less for weekends. I also try to not fill every morning before work or evening after the girls are in bed with more work (usually for this lovely blog and podcast, but still work!). I honor my feelings. If it feels better to just go to sleep or to watch TV with my husband, that’s what I do. Forcing myself to cross things off all the time is a one way ticket to burn out.
- I started working with a personal coach. You could call him a life coach or a career coach, but we cover all of that. I don’t believe those are separate anyway. We’re only on the beginning of this journey, but I do think having an outside, neutral party to help you to figure things out for yourself is valuable. There were some specific aspects of my life that I was totally overthinking and needed some help to get out of my head about. I only wish I had started sooner!
If you’re feeling burnt out and carrying the weight of the world right now, ask for help. There are so many ways to lighten the load you’re carrying and you don’t have to carry it alone.