In one of my many daily conversations with Tiffany, I was talking about everything that was going on. I know you’ve all had those conversations. You start on one topic and then flow to the next and to the next and to the next as you describe everything you’re doing, balancing and of course, the things that you should be doing but are falling through the cracks. She smiled and said, well, in life, change is the only constant. To be honest, I wanted to thank her and yell at her at the same time.
During this same conversation I mentioned that I had started to listen to the Seasons episode of The RobCast. Tiffany had already listened in so we launched into this idea about marking the seasons of our lives. Sometimes I feel the seasons need to move faster, especially when I am in a transition season. Rob talked a lot about these transition seasons, and if you rush through these moments too quickly, you may miss what you were supposed to learn. For example, if you had a season where you ended a relationship, you may want to move quickly through the season where you need to grieve the relationship and reflect on it, and into a new relationship. His point is if you don’t allow yourself to experience the transition, you won’t gain what you need to from it, and you won’t be your best self in the next season. He also reiterates that seasons will change – they have to. So there is no need to rush through them as they will change when they need to.
We’ve officially entered a new season on the calendar, but I am still in a season of transition. As I’ve shared a few times on the blog my husband and I are trying for a baby, and we’re still trying. It’s hard to be present when I feel desperate to be in the next season of being a mom of a baby. But, in thinking about change and seasons, I’ve recommitted to being in the transition. I’m trying to feel all the feelings of this period, to love every up and every down, because it too will pass. Since we know everything is changing, it is even more important to be present in your current season so you don’t miss out. And I don’t want my hopes and dreams to make me absent in the present for moments such as wine on the porch with my husband or playing Xbox with the boys.
Think this week about where you can double down on being present in this season, whatever it may bring.