Anyone else see the Pixar movie Inside Out? It is mainly the story about the voices in our head. They all have a role to play in our lives, but where and how they interact is what creates the fun and excitement, and in the case of the movie, the story line.
I love the idea of thinking there is a committee of voices in my head because often that is how it feels. There are many ways to feel about a situation, and at times the more I think, the more options I tend to come up with. Lately I’ve been hearing a lot from worry, who is part of my negative committee.
For me worry is a dirty five letter word. It doesn’t mean to be. I don’t like being told “not to worry,” because then I immediately think there is something to worry about. I also don’t like to worry because the anxiety it creates isn’t doing me any good. The more I focus on worry, the more I miss out on the good that is happening in the present.
I recently read The Secret and rediscovered the concept of reframing. Reframing is something I think about a lot in a work context. If I have to give bad news to a colleague or client, how can I reframe it so it is heard and understood? If I am frustrated, how can I effectively communicate that so the problem doesn’t escalate? In the work place, I am careful to think about how my actions and words will affect others and I try to adjust my communication so it is a productive conversation for everyone.
With myself however, I just let myself have it. I let worry overtake situations in my mind and add on many more possible things to worry about, so that I really feel the anxiety and pressure. I need to tell the negative committee to sit down and let the positive committee take over. I need to reframe the anxiety into excitement, the concern into joy, the sadness into happiness. I know we’ve talked about this a lot recently, but meditation is my go to resource right now for helping me create the white space I need in order to reframe.
Is there a situation or relationship where you could apply the concept of reframing? Try it out and report back. I’ll wager a bet it adds a bit of happiness to your day.