Growing up you are told to ask questions. When you are very small, say age 3 and 4, you ask things like why is the sky blue? Why is Mom in LA? Where is my blanket? You ask whatever comes to your mind as you are trying to understand the world around you and how it all works. You are curious.
As we enter junior high, high school and even into college, we have to find a different groove with asking questions. While you are reminded there are no stupid questions, you know enough that there are some questions you should know the answer to, making you hesitant to ask them again. You also know that some questions will require the person you are asking to do you a favor or make an exception for you, and you may hate to inconvenience someone, so you don’t ask.
That is generally my habit – I don’t want to inconvenience others, so I just don’t ask. It is something I am working on, as I believe that in order to move forward, you have to ask. You have to be curious. You have to be willing to try. You won’t ever know unless you ask!
This was my situation recently. I booked a 7:30pm SoulCycle class and arrived at 5:40pm. Traffic wasn’t as bad as I expected and now I was way too early. There were two options. Option A was to find something to do – grocery shop, read, eat – to pass the time until class. Option B was to call and see if it was possible to get into the 6:30pm class. It isn’t their policy to move you in and out of classes, especially an hour before a class, so I wasn’t sure. I was nervous, but I was fine with either option so I called. And they said this isn’t their standard policy but they were able to make an exception. I was in. And I was so excited! It was like a little gift, a little surprise. I would be home earlier and the possibilities for the evening were wide open. I got home, warmed up some soup, did a little writing, and treated myself to a face mask. It was glorious.
This week, just ask. And may we lift each other up as we do it!