I wanted to share this quote primarily for the moms among us. It comes from the best book I’ve read in awhile – Hands Free Life (book review coming soon!). I wish I didn’t recognize myself in the non-loving voice. The reality is that this has been me way more often than I even want to admit. For example, when I could be focused on a story my daughter is telling about school, I am already cleaning up dinner and clearing plates. I should be giving her my full attention. But I feel rushed. I feel stressed. I want to keep up with everything.
But guess what? While I’m keeping all the balls in the air, my sweet daughter is growing up. At light speed. And I’m missing that moment to look into her sweet innocent eyes while she tells me a story. Not to mention that I’m modeling behavior I really hope she doesn’t learn. To rush through life. To focus on “crossing things off” rather than on what matters. That it’s ok to be distracted and not pay attention to our loved ones.
Here’s the thing though. I can change this. Right now. And you can too. Will I be perfect all of the time? Nope. I won’t. You won’t be either. But it’s what we do the majority of the time that matters. And I want my daughters to remember how mom was there. Present. That mom stopped accomplishing all.the.things to look them in the eyes and make them feel like they matter.
So, today, I am going to make sure I use my loving voice and that I’m there. Really there.