I have a girlfriend going through a loss I cannot even imagine. There is no way to put myself in her shoes or comfort her with tales of success from my own experience. Going through this with her I’ve realized two things that I wanted to share with you, the first perhaps being the most important.
You are only as strong as you think you are.
There is a large part of strength that is mental. If you think you’re sad, don’t you feel sad? Don’t you then think you should sleep in or eat that cupcake because you are sad (or angry, or frustrated, or fill in the blank)? I certainly do. If I am late and I think that being late has ruined the day or the event already, well likely it will be ruined. It doesn’t have to be though. We can be as strong as we think we should be. It is similar to the “fake it until you make it” idea. How you think you’re doing will influence how you actually are. So, why not think you’re strong?
The second thing is something I’ve learned time and time again. When you have someone in your life going through something sad and you don’t know what to do for them, bring food. As we talked about in a recent podcast episode, trying to figure out what to eat for dinner can be overwhelming. So, bring food. You can order food or make food. It’s a great way to show you care and do something that will make their day just a little easier. And, listen. You don’t need to solve it for them. You can listen and physically show up for them. It really can be that simple.
If you are sensing a trend in my TGIM’s lately, you’d be right. I’m doing a lot of work on my mindset and mental energy, and ensuring my mind is as healthy as possible. It’s work I likely will be doing for the rest of my life, and I am truly in love with this process, so that is alright with me.
Think positive thoughts this week. Think that you are strong as anyone else. And then, become that strong person you are meant to be.